I do remember I am in my 50s now my first time - it was slightly painful and I bled. I have started a new relationship and I have been having sex more often than in the past. This thin membrane can tear from so many other things besides. I have always thought I was an anomaly, because everyone acts as if your first time is supposed to be beautiful, painless, and fun. Well, when I was 13, I went to a gynecologist for the first time because I had painful and irregular periods that started when I was 9 years old. What advice do you have for me? Can anyone help me with this problem or should I see a doctor? I'd actually like to make a very important point that I hope people see and really remember: If you're having sex and it hurts regardless of how many times you've had sex, or wheter its your hymen being stretched out whatever the reason. Published: Sep 10, 2016, edited: Oct 9, 2017 by Dr.
Can't we all agree that there is a wide range of normal? Attempting penetration with no foreplay will more than likely lead to painful sex. Otherwise it's just more not taking women's voices seriously when they have atypical or unfashionable problems. The chance of having the other types of hymens that stretch across the opening and will hurt septate, etc. Anyways, it never hurt me. I'm actually more frustrated by the women here who think that their experiences speak for all women than the man who wrote the article.
No, no, a million times no. Please let us know so that other posters here can learn from this. But the next morning the bleeding stopped. I recall having trouble inserting tampons during the first few years of my period age 14-16? They'll even give advice to younger and less experienced men about how to do it. I think you should feel the same way.
Anyways, I finally had the stupid thing removed last summer and a few weeks later at my post-op checkup, my gynaecologist told me about a woman who had the same thing - but she didn't get it removed until it was an emergency situation because she was in labour and she knew about it for the whole pregnancy and wait last minute to get it gone - and my doctor applauded me for getting it removed at a young age because of the potential implications of leaving it until later in life. But two weeks of foreplay isn't going to make the hymen membrane any less tough, if indeed it was your friend's hymen that was the issue. But once I copulate, it's off to the races. Very little lubrication,and the pain was worse than my first time,and that time I did bleed,a lot. If hymenal tissue has largely worn away by adolescence, why do so many women experience pain on first intercourse? Reading between the lines, it sounds like your friends' experiences are more in line with their being afraid of sex as being taught to wait until marriage can often result in and therefore becoming too tensed up for penetration, rather than their both having preternaturally tough hymens.
Once the hymen is torn or stretched open, it stays that way,. So, yeah, suffice to say the hymen myth is a silly superstition. If I remember correctly, though, I finally lied to him and told him that the doctor told me I totally have a hymen in perfect tact, like new! This information is only intended to provide guidance, not definitive medical advice. But it still bleeds a little every now and then for the past 18 hours, but not as it should when you are on your period. One day when I came home from school, I went to change it and it wouldn't come out. As in if you have or were just about to ovulate then there is a greater chanse of being pregnant. I think you may be missing the point of a hymen.
Women who were brought up or told that painful intercourse and bleeding during their first or second, or third, etc. Many of my partners will let it slide because I'm a gentleman in every other way. Yes, its a general stigma around losing virginity that the first time a girl has sex, she will bleed. Have you done a comprehensive survey of large sample group across a wide range of women? Another partner was overweight and unattractive. Because the hymen is so thin, and sits so close to the vaginal opening, it's delicate and susceptible to tearing during childhood. Thanks Please remember, everyone's bodies are very different and no one will experience the same thing everytime.
Also, having sex for the first time comes with a certain amount of anxiety and expectation of pain, plus lack of experience and knowledge about what will make it feel good read: and sufficient foreplay. He just threw it out there as a suggestion. Kirk C wrote: Girl, you've got to get to a medical person for these questions. I didn't bleed the first time I had sex. Yeah, he really wasn't worth my time. He was very careful and I was fully prepared.
In no way does any of the information provided reflect definitive medical advice and self diagnoses should not be made based on information obtained online. The Hymen may be used to fingers as they can shape more to the vagina, but when a penis is inserted, the girth of the penis will stretch the hymen, sometimes causing a tear, which is common and completely normal. The amount of bleeding will vary from person to person. Yes, we should definitely terrify young women with tales of how painful intercourse will be for them. Hint to the author, when nearly every person commenting on your article is a woman telling you that your article is misleading and invalidates women's lived experiences, you might want to go back to the drawing board. She and I agreed that violent thrusting was a man's way of retaliating for years of rejection.
Many times folks that post here don't always tell the whole story right away. When I got home, there was blood all over my panties and I thought I started my period. Like, are you actually partially illiterate? I find that it is still very painful and I can not be fully penetrated. He did not say we are diminished in our form if we felt pain, only that we should be experiencing pleasure. Particularly since, you know, the lubricating effects of foreplay aren't cumulative over a long period of time.
Then I had another sex a week later and it did bleed a little. If you have a , your knowledge about the hymen probably starts and ends with something about virginity. Many of them were afraid to confront me, but I could tell that I was hurting them. For women with imperforate hymens, a simple surgical procedure snips away the excess tissue. You can't see this, but I'm rolling my eyes so hard. No blood on the sheets deeply dishonored the bride's family and might even bring charges of marital fraud. It's based around cultural myths and the like, and I find it very childish of you all to project your insecurities and bad experiences of your first times on the author in such a vitriolic manner.