Pay attention to small signs. I'm sorry if this hasn't helped you, let me know how you go if you haven't told her already. Well anyways, if you and your best friend are lesbian you guys will make those googly eyes at each other, touch arms, hands, legs etc real soft and slow. Have you ever been with a guy?!?! Nobody really has those types of stereotypes for straight people, so there really shouldn't be any for gay people, either. If you're trying to figure out whether a friend is gay or not, hopefully, you're doing it so you can be a better ally and support them.
While some gay people are flamboyant and fit into the perceived stereotype of what a gay person is often seen as in the media, others couldn't be further from that. It would be a really jerky thing to do if you're not doing it for that reason. I am a bisexual and proud. You'd know that if you read any of my other hubs, instead of just assuming. Trying to analyze your friend this way is nearly impossible, especially when attraction is clouding your judgement.
If you actually decide to tell her, do it sometime when you are alone and comfortable. I have Lesbian friends and we get along just fine. You share your past experiences and thoughts, and she shares hers. That it if you would like to avoid unnecessarily butthurt comments. Your friend does not desire to alter her orientation any more than you do.
So brunch took an unexpected turn. Nearly everyone has a token lesbian friend. I'm confused by the way she acts when she's with me. She might even go so far as to express the mostly true sentiment that women are pretty and men are ugly. Some people seem to have taken this hub the wrong way. Muster up the courage to get the conversation going so you can find out if your friend is a lesbian, but be respectful if you feel she doesn't want to disclose that information. While you're busy looking for signs that your friend is gay, you might be forgetting that they might not be gay at all.
Support her, be an ally, and value her as a human being. They are theoretically the life of every party. That's very rarely the case. Much like you, proverbial straight creature of the night, are not attracted to every human with a dick limb that walks by you, I am not attracted to every girl who walks by me. Our society tends to tell us that bare is the current ideal, and in some ways, I can understand that. You think she is into you but you are not sure. People have this need to put people into boxes for some reason, which is why people are so obsessed with trying to figure out what someone is or isn't.
None of your hobbies mean anything about your sexuality, so nobody else's hobbies do that for them, either. If she's truly a friend, she won't mind, and will support you. Also, expect it to be a little akward for like the first week. Im curious as to how a straight woman can give advice from a lesbian's perspective, as this is not the way we think about the topic, at all. Does she notice the men or the women? Continue only if you have decided that this is important enough to risk the friendship.
They're not really all that different: you just know something else about them now. He or she will have a less biased perspective on whether your friend is interested in you, and can talk you through your feelings. Keep your personal life to yourself unless she is interested enough to ask. Idk what to do i have a crush on one of my friends. Can we stay that way? She'll tell you about how relationships with other women are just easier because you understand each other and don't have to deal with silly men who are afraid to express their feelings.
Are you ever attracted to your friends who are girls? Hobbies shouldn't ever have a gender, because hobbies don't have a gender. If hope is not something you want her to have, be clear that you would never actually be with a girl, regardless of any thoughts you may have had about it. Even if the reaction is bad at first, listen calmly and allow your friend to say what's on his or her mind without interruption. Spotting a lezzie is supposed to be fun! If she might have a crush on you, however, you can help defuse this and save the friendship. You do not have to be 100% certain before you do something. About The Author Jandi is a soft butch. To create this article, 24 people, some anonymous, worked to edit and improve it over time.