Then it started up again and I never reported it cuz he was trying to get his youngest daughter back then we did and he stopped for a few months and around Nov he started up again. When one friend overheard him calling me stupid, ignorant, and a bitch, this friend convinced me to get my own separate checking account last year. This is the time to encourage him or her to do so. He is abusive in every way. It is possible but you have to make a choice and it is a hard choice. He went to rehab and was sober for 9 months.
We have been married for 4 years and although we dated over a year before getting married, it was long distance with an ocean separating us. How do I move on with my life while I am still married and still take care of my family? He has been horrid to me and still denies he has a prob. The cycle you are on with addiction and the addict will not stop until you do something to change it. I used to look forward to the weekends because he got to be home with his family. Your children grow up damaged and move away. Yes, having a child would have made it that much harder so sometimes things happen for a reason.
We are at a point where we hate each other. Saturday was St Pattys day. He is gradually getting worse because his low self-esteem is getting the best of him. You, or one of his brothers, should go with him to the doctors and find a solution to help him get better. During those 2 years, things did not get better; he was even angrier than when he was drinking. Actively Drinking or Still Sober. He has started arguments out of no where, I found the bottle of wine 2 inches of wine left that was in the cabinet, empty in the trash can.
It was a piece of many factors that combined to bring me to a much better place than I was 3 months ago. I hope your husband seeks the Lord for help as well and that your marriage is saved. He had 2 shoulder surgeries due to his job. By our human nature we are at our core, selfish. That is why Alcoholics Anonymous advises families not to get angry.
Nobody deserves to live like this. I am sure you have tried all that you can and so at this point, it is out of your hands. He has been verbally and emotionally abusive. I walked into our guest bathroom and the horrific odor of burnt foil slapped me in the face. Now she needs your support as a responsible mother.
Can you imagine how I feel. I can hear my brain telling me to leave — because as with my father, there is never any good that results from this type of situation. Two teenage children and an alcoholic husband. It's your choice, but if you're reading this then obviously you are not happy with 'normal'. He has drank on and off for the last 3 years. Allow your spouse to explain his or her life choices to others. I have spent hours in counseling and attend Al-Anon meetings.
As a voluntary facility, we're here to help you heal -- on your terms. What makes dealing with high-functioning alcoholics so challenging? Not letting them know how we feel is dishonest. It was one of the hardest decisions of my life because I love him but the verbal and emotional abuse was getting unbearable. If you have a problem with alcohol, a professional addiction treatment program is the most effective route to recovery. When he sobered up he talked me out of it, of course, but we agreed that I would leave if it happened again. Treatment centers and interventions can help an alcoholic recover. We are in court now because he wants visitation with our 4 year old.
Finally, after seeing a text to another woman that was flirty I had reached my boiling point. No matter who else may be in her life at the time, you have always been first and foremost. He did want the help. His parents called and he was insensible on the phone, very slurred speech, and then he passed out while talking to them. I am merely suggesting she doesn't hang on in there expecting him to change. I've put it in safes, various bags, wherever I could think of and he always finds it, steals it and then on top of that goes and drinks which is not attractive at all. He manipulates me to believe that I am the cause of his drinking, he outright said it.
We have six beautiful children. I knew he was drinking on the weekends , but now that i luve with him, he cant hide it anymore, he drinks everday, come home from work drunk mist if the times, always to manage to put me down and blame me for everything, its bn a year and im alrwady suffering from anxiety and depression, i feel like im going insane. How can I have let this happen to me?. Ive tried standing my ground and fighting for what i feel but that results in screaming and fighting in front if the kids. I am so confused and lost, I need help. I couldtell you stories that would make your head spin. He has to love himself first.
Yes, he was on that pitty pot! I told him that he was a liar and what the hell was he doing at a bar chatting it up with another woman and drink while he knew i was at his home waiting with a nice warm bath etc. Thank you for allowing me to vent. He lies and steals and thinks he is better than everyone else. In doing so, I effectively became an outcast. Then why did it take so long, I wonder, for me to see the light? Let me explain a bit about my life with my husband. I keep hoping things will change but I am beginning to loose faith.