Don't use cheap persuasion strategies to make her give you head. Those are some general principles, I read most of that in Jacks Blow Job Persuasion guide, and really got some results. So, if your woman always has to be on bottom, and rarely wants to throw anything new into the bedroom, she's probably lazy. You can try to get her to get an education about sex, and see an sex therapist- if she won't go, go yourself, and maybe the therapist can give you some ideas and materials to share with your wife about oral sex, so that your wife will learn that it is both natural, and fun. We're all human beings on the other side of the screen.
This one will blow your wife away. It was also helpful for me to ask any questions I had about it over at I think that's it? I think that when you're married and you've agreed to forsake all others, you have to be available at least 85% of the time to handle whatever needs your spouse has, unless you have a one-sided relationship. Is it a dealbreaker to you? She always is worried she is gonna gag and throw up, I have suggested by flavored condoms we have flavored lube everything. The mods try to be omniscient, but we spend a lot of time playing Free Cell and truffle hunting - during those times reporting comments is a community service. That's all I did in his car and when he laid himself to bed.
Be civil, and try to maintain an even tone. Start planning it out now. She's just refusing to do it because there are no consequences. We sometimes go for up to two weeks without having sex and I only give oral sex about half the time. Some people have been trained to believe that feeling good is bad, or evil or sinful. If you feel she is rejecting from this 'action', then leave it, - if not, move her hand around the area until you let go to let herself do what she wants to make you feel happy.
If she has any hang ups based on fear or cleanliness they are so easy to address! I want to hear what you think about intimacy in marriage and all that! A male reader, , writes 27 June 2009 : Well, my first girlfriend and I broke-up over the oral sex issue. My wife just wants oral! Now listen up if you want me to sprinkle some of my wisdom on you. Last but not least - get in touch with old friends and work on your social life. She succeeded but that next year when she tried to go back to normal. She'll do anything to stop that.
I wish it were that easy But you have to stay in the game. Don't expect to get anything if you never give anything. She is not stupid and she knows, even if you're in a coma and your dog just died, you want oral sex, and 2. I was very naieve when I was married. Not reaching for your true potential as a man.
So allow me to reword this…. You have to find a way to separate yourself from stress at work and everything else that occupies your mind. But there's not some magical solution that she'll want to just suck it either. Alternatively you can try and stop going down on her, and she might wonder why you stopped. She wants to feel like you and her are still in love. It's common sense that reciprocal oral sex is part of a marriage.
Or a pile of dirt, or whatever you find repugnant, and the argument for you doing so was that, when brainwashed in an earlier phase of life by a Bug Eating Cult, you did it happily? Find out what the issue is. If this is the case, seek couples counseling, stat. Make sure your wife understands how much pleasure it would give you to perform it on her. Sometimes this happens because once married, a couple falls into a dull routine and forgets all about nurturing and growing the love, respect and attraction between each other. Fresh from the gym and salty? Forget Power maybe that is the whole problem. My wife is an awesome mom and she deserves my appreciation and hands-on help to lighten her load. I'm not sharing what we share in the house tonight with anyone else.
Eat her out like there's no tomorrow. If you have no friends, since you're working all day and all you hear is your wife nagging about the dishes and other crap, then you get caught up in daily life and get lazy and stop seeing your friends. Let her feel comfortable when doing more sexual actions. My husband told me all the other wives were doing it but I thought he was just blowing smoke up my skirt. But if you want things to improve, you can make it, if you try.